WLW Online Dating

When attempting to meet someone online, there are certain things to be mindful about. Allow this blog to serve as a guide to maximizing your chances at attracting quality.

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MEDIA!

In a world where appearance matters, you must stay prepared. Whether you agree or not! This is where we are. For some, looks get you in the door, but your mindset determines if you stay. And for others, well, looks is all you need.

Your uploaded photos don't have to be perfect, of course there's no such thing. But they should look as though you've tried. This is what possible suitors see when visiting your page. Ask yourself a few questions before taking photos and uploading them.

• Are my lips chapped or moisturized?

• Is my nose clean? Are my eyes clean?

• Are there stains on my clothing?

• Are your nails clean and tongue brushed? Are you missing a nail? Polish chipping off?

• How am I trying to come across? There's a very thin line between sexy and classless.

• Hair! Does my hair show that I care about my appearance? If not, hold off until you have a fresh style or comb your hair again. Unless rugged is a part of your style then that's fine.

• Is your room clean if capturing photos there? Clothes shouldn't be on the floor, food shouldn't be visible in the room.

• Uploading screenshots of confrontational exes. Are you trying to find someone or push people away? It reads chaotic and drama and no one serious would find that attractive.

This list may seem tedious, but these are things that people notice. Show a bit more effort. Think of your photos as a snapshot into your life and personality. Yes, life happens and we don't look put together at every waken moment, but you have a choice on when to take photos and what to upload.

WORDS DO MATTER!

Sure we like to think that the internet is just the internet. That nothing we post is "that deep." But you have to remember that the people online don't know you personally. So, while you may think you're posting harmlessly, potential suitors are learning you through your posts. Have your fun on social media, but remember to be mindful if you're dating online.

TOO MUCH TOO SOON!

I've witnessed people divulging way too much information early on or just unnecessary information altogether. Too much too soon can be overwhelming. I understand wanting to just get it all out and let people decide to take it or leave it, but there are some things that just doesn't need to be said.

I see a lot of posts of what people won't accept and it's always a long list of what someone can't do or what they can't come with. Instead of focusing on the negative down to what type of socks they wear, shift the narrative. Post about your interests, post about you enjoying your interests. Create a more positive page. Be mindful of trauma bonding. Save the need for therapy in a relationship for an actual therapist. Yes, eventually you will come into a space with your partner where you can vent and seek advice, but your emotions are not your partner's responsibility.

But before we get ahead, keep in mind that this isn't your partner yet. This can come across as codependency and make you appear to be a problematic partner. No one wants to hear about you having a bad day everyday.

No one wants to hear how many bills you need to pay. You may think you're making conversation, but it can come across as dry begging.

Overall, be more mindful and good luck!